Do you need to change anything to enable your care of Self?

 

Taking the dimensions caring for self may look something like this:

 

Practical

  • Break large tasks down to several smaller tasks and complete them one at a time.

  • Only accept requests from other to do something if you have the time to do so when they ask, learn to say no.

  • Gain knowledge about any illness you may be experience and act appropriately for Self-management, including seeing GP before it gets out of hand or too difficult to manage self.

  • Learn to say no can take so much pressure from your shoulders.

  • Learn to ask for support when you need it.

  • De-clutter this always make one feel lighter. Go through your wardrobe and donate all the things you haven’t worn in a while to the homeless this will help someone else and offer you a sense of community spirit.

  • Employ someone to finish the DIY tasks you have had hanging around for some time.

  • Buy yourself fresh flower to enjoy.

  • Cook something you enjoy and take time to enjoy ever mouthful as if you are tasting for the first time.

  • Have a duvet day and let time pass, sleep on any worries or give yourself time to process anxiety. Change is the only constant in living so to this will pass!

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Psychological

  • Be aware and recognize when you can't handle things by yourself and ask for support and help. 

  • Learn to say no to what you don't want to do or don't have realistic time to complete.

  • Claim some space in your home for yourself to relax.

  • Create a safe home environment, your home is where you shut the stressful world out.

  • Create me time to be alone and to refresh and rejuvenate Self.

  • Trust yourself, listen to your intuition and embrace who you are here and now.

  • Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you and you in them equally.

  • Change things which are not working, and think of change as a process not a quick fix.

  • Say YES to life and embrace it with open arms.

  • Let someone else be in charge for a time.

  • Seek counselling if you need to change habitual pattern and don’t know how!

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Social

  • Create a social network which works for you.

  • Talk to friends sharing always help to make the load lighter.

  • Try new things join a new class or take up a new hobby.

  • Keep actively involved in your community this creates a sense of belong.

  • Work at a job you enjoy we have a need to work to keep the roof over our head make it a job that affirms who you are in your core.

  • Talk with others face-to-face more than you do over text or email, phone your friends and encourage them to phone you.  Take a break from technology remember people matter and spending time together is priceless.

  • Share some time with others who make you laugh and who accept you for who you are unconditionally.

  • Spend some time outside in the fresh air, or do something out of your comfort zone, join a walking club or enlist friends to join you for a games evening!

  • Learn to use healthy communication and self-expression so others find you a base for safety as someone who they can approach, be kind to others we are all fighting a battle or two.

  • Be assertive and stand up for yourself dont let others walk all over you assertive does  not mean aggressive it means being diplomatic and caring for others feelings equally to your own.

 

Physical

  • Ensuring you eat a balance diet, eat several smaller meals rather than 2 or 3 larger ones.

  • Get enough sleep around 7 hours per night is a good balance.

  • Engage in light exercise (Check with GP first)

  • Try some yoga or a massage or enjoy a spar experience once in a while.

  • Have a relaxing bath or shower, make the lighting ambient with candles and use scented lotions.

  • Drink plenty of water to avoid dehydration.

  • Stretch into your day slowly.

  • Dance like no one is watching its very liberating and uplifts you.

  • Sing even if you are tone deaf it uplifts your Soul

  • Use alcohol responsibly educate yourself on safe limits and stick to them.

 

Spiritual

  • Practice breathing exercises centring in Self and relax your mind, body and spirit.

  • Take time to sit and be still, get to know self at your deepest levels, create peace within Self.

  • Stand tall lift your posture, let your spirit shine you may feel down or blue when you slouch.

  • Have faith things will work out, trust the process of living.

  • Prioritise - Rome wasn’t built in a day.

  • Make a list of all the things you are good at and the things you have achieved however small they may seem.

  • Nurture a garden, a pet, a potted plant, feed the birds in your garden give to something other than yourself.

  • Create an anchor which you can connect to in times of angst which will ground you in times of difficulty.

  • Explore your intentions, set your purpose, learn to accept yourself right here right now.

  • Practice self-love and self-compassion, treat yourself gently with kindness and appreciate Self.

 

Emotional

  • Explore anything which concerns you in the here & now.

  • Eliminate all expectations of perfection no one is perfect.

  • Explore ways to let your emotion out safely; recognise ALL emotions are part of being human and no one emotions is more important than the next.

  • Learn about your personal emotions and the way you process them.

  • Think about the language you use and change it if necessary.  Use affirming nurturing language to yourself and then it will project from you with ease to affirm and nurture other to.

  • Ask for help when you need it rather than 'going' it all alone it is a sign of emotional intelligence to do so.

  • Learn about resiliency and build it along with emotional intelligence and explore the difference.

  • Build firm but flexible boundaries which only you have the handle to open them.

  • Acknowledge and recognise you have rights equally to ALL others, you have a right to your own feelings, thoughts, opinions, decision making, you have a right to choose for your Self, you have a right to autonomy and well-being.  You have aright to be your Self.

  • Consult a counsellor if your emotions are not balanced and you wish to self-develop and your not sure how to!

 

 Behavioural

  • Stop procrastinating and those negative thoughts from consuming you.

  • Once you have made a decision follow it through to conclusion.

  • Minimise being a people pleaser or a martyr.

  • Minimise multi-tasking and do one thing at a time to completion.  In reality nobody can multi-task it is a myth.

  • Do something you are good at and enjoy, engage in something creative.

  • Nurture yourself give yourself what you need when you need it.

  • Be the person you needed when you were younger.

  • Recognise and own the fact you have a right to choose what to do with your own body.

  • Work to find the balance between work, rest and play and put it into action daily.

  • Consult a counsellor to help with your behavioural changes if you find this too difficult to achieve alone.

 

Intellectual

  • If you are upset, worried or over anxious make healing your priority.

  • If you are worried about your health seek information and guidance from a medical practitioner to alleviate worry, gain support.

  • Find some time for the things you love to do and get lost in the moment of doing.

  •  Become the best friend of your self-talk, break the cycle and give yourself a break from criticising and negative self-talk by creating a chatterbox which is forward thinking and which raises your spirit by affirmation and nurturance.

  • With reference to the above remember anything another says about you also says something about the person saying it! So don't own it without first exploring it and if you wish to change something do so if you are comfortable with it keep it!

  • Befriend the unknown when we embrace it, it is quick to reveal its treasures if we work against it then it builds discomfort, anxiety and/or fear.

  • Be honest with yourself don’t deny or avoid, this often and does make things worse for you.

  • Become your own best friend and appreciate yourself and all you do for others and do them unto yourself equally.

  • Make room in your intellect for feelings, difficult as well as nurturing, love, lust, guilt, shame, compassion many emotions can be experienced in any one time, be prepared and work to recognise your feelings, just notice without having to do anything about them in the first instance.  Get to know the process of your personal feelings and befriend all of them when you do so they lose the powerful grip they may have on you and which stops you moving forward.

  • Record your dreams to use to empower your self-awareness and insight.

 

 

Life is a juggling act Self-care is as important as putting fuel into a car without fuel the car won't move  - not one inch!

 

These are just some suggestions to support self-care.

 

Please feel free to add your own ways that work for you .

 

If you find yourself struggling then please consider contacting me for support.

 

Thank you for reading this far!

 

To your Mental Wealth always

 

Warm regards

 

Sue

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